Our Disciplinary Agreement identifies a number of specific behavioural infringements that entitle DW to administer punishment. One of these is my tendency to agree on a specific time that we’ll retire to bed of an evening but then, for whatever reason, fail to keep to it. Although I’ve received more than a few severe spankings and spent extended time in panties as a consequence of this particular infringement, it has remained perhaps the most frustratingly intransigent aspect of my behaviour for DW. Even as I write this post, DW has me confined in some purple nylon panties and “on notice†to receive a spanking for precisely that behaviour last night. That spanking is scheduled to be administered tomorrow evening, and given my previous history in this area, I can rightfully anticipate a pretty severe blistering.
The very understandable source of DW’s frustration is that when she goes to bed, she really wants me to be there also, intertwined with her – and if she does elect to go off to bed at the agreed time before I do, too often it’s only to find herself lying awake wondering just when I AM going to come and join her. The result is that far too often, we both stay up, usually working in the office, well beyond the time we should simply have quit and retired to bed – together. My offense is only compounded if I interpret DW’s continued presence as implicit agreement that she has agreed to a delay in our retiring to bed – WRONG!
Given how much I enjoy being in bed with DW once I get there, even I find this behaviour difficult to fathom and can really offer no excuses.
In light of the apparent difficulty in overcoming this aspect of my behaviour, DW has determined that it needs to be corrected by applying an appropriate and clearly defined penalty that will be covered in a newly drafted Addendum to our Disciplinary Agreement. As this particular infringement relates to time, it seems appropriate, that the defined penalty also be time-based. In essence, the duration of the time penalty will equal the accumulated minutes by which I have been late arriving in bed after the agreed time. Although DW has imposed simple corner time on occasions, this new Addendum will formalise the application of time-based penalties.
So at this stage, the draft of the Addendum reads as follows:
PREAMBLE
In view of Ford’s persistent and intransigent behaviour in failing to comply with an agreed time to retire in the evening, DW has been granted the right to impose time-based penalties for this category of infringement.
BEDTIME
Whenever practicable each evening, DW and Ford shall discuss and agree on a time for retiring to bed. If such a discussion and agreement has not occurred, the default agreement shall be for a time of 10:45pm.
RECORDING AND DURATION
A progressive record shall be kept of the accumulated number of minutes by which Ford has been late in complying with the agreed bedtime. The duration of the penalty shall be the number of minutes that has progressively accumulated by the time the penalty is scheduled to be served. There shall be no credits for any time by which Ford has retired before the agreed time, and DW retains the right to impose all other forms of discipline for this infringement that are her entitlement under the existing Disciplinary Agreement.
SCHEDULING OF PENALTY
The penalty shall be served at a time of DW’s sole choosing, taking into account other commitments, accumulated duration of the penalty and maintenance of privacy.
NATURE OF PENALTY
The nature of the penalty shall be entirely at DW’s determination with respect to Ford’s:
- state of dress;
- level of discomfort;
- physical constraint;
- ability to communicate; and
- location.
As might be gathered, this now leaves DW with the discretion to apply virtually any measures that she deems appropriate for the duration of the time penalty that can include feminisation, bondage and use of a gag. Consistent with the principle behind this penalty, it also means that I will effectively forfeit any time I may appear to have gained by delaying bedtime beyond our agreement.
The practical outcomes of this addition to our Disciplinary Agreement now remain to be seen.
Hi Ford,
This instatnt I have discovered your blog. It is stupendous intimacy between two you. Sorry my English is very poor, so I can write shortly but I will read always your blog sure in the future. I think DW has administered your punishment by the addendum yet. I’m curious to know details…
Greeting:
croma
Do you have a complete agreement drawn up? I would love to see what your rules and duties are. We are working on a list and adding to it all the time.
Thanks for the blog.
We have no agreement my wife is a vanilla she hasn’t the slightest idea of my spanking imagination. Susan (it is the name of my “secret mistressâ€) spanks me from time to time. She isn’t my loving she is only a professional dominant woman I made the acquaintance with her for a long while. At that time I wasn’t married yet… Susan is older than I she is approximately 40 year old.
That is why I was fascination when I’ve read your blog. Your wife is a loving and a mistress it is rare you are lucky husband.
Hi Croma.
Many thanks for you very kind comments and yes, I do consider myself very fortunate to have such a wonderful wife,lover and disciplinarian.
I have not committed a “bedtime” infringment since we drafted the Addendum to our Agreement, so have not yet been subjected to the punishment it prescribes. If I do, I dare say it will be the subject of a future post.
best regards
Ford
Hi Paul,
I will try to massage our Agreement from Word into a blog-publishable form. I don’t think that DW will have any objections.
best regards
Ford
Glad to read your written agreement is working out so well. For many this is exactly where it falls apart.
A specific sleeping time is one thing I couldn’t cope with myself. I’ve had various sleep related problems for many, many years. Well before my relationship and no medical help has been of benefit. I just have to accept it. Thankfully, so does she.
You are a very lucky man to have a wife/mistress who understands your wants and needs. You should cherish her and treat her like a princess. I am extremely envious.