Disciplining Ford

“Negotiation”

It’s not typical for DW to give prior indication of the duration and severity of a punishment she plans to apply for an infringement, but there have been occasions when she’s indulged in some degree of “negotiation”.  Unfortunately it’s rarely I’m left with the feeling, especially in my butt, that I’ve then only received the minimum she was prepared to administer.

In a recent case DW opened negotiations while I was serving “corner” time, hands behind my head and facing a full length mirror in our bedroom.

“So what do you think would be a reasonable punishment?”

“25 with the hairbrush?” I ventured.

“No… I’m afraid that’s not even close mister!”

“Oh…umm… 30 with the paddle?”

“Hmm, yes, I guess that might do – ok, but it will be a slow, hard paddling.”

“…oh.”

Why the resigned “…oh”? – you might ask.

Well the number of stokes may seem a reasonable outcome, but the manner of their delivery would make me more than sorry I perhaps hadn’t opted for more strokes with DW prepared to deliver them in more rapid fashion.  Experience has taught that 30 slow and hard paddle strokes from DW are a far greater test of my endurance, and result in a far more severe outcome.

As DW’s delivery of 30 paddle strokes in this manner can stretch to 20 minutes, she does take some care that my positioning is sufficiently comfortable that I can remain in position for that period of time – or at least that the position itself will not be a limiting factor on the duration of my spanking.  Typically this will be over a well padded chair with a back of exactly the right height or as most recently, over the foot of a sleigh bed at a rented weekend cottage providing near ideal ergonomics.  In that instance, DW certainly had me strongly gripping the bed covers from the very first stroke.

As you can imagine, the primary reasons for my additional foreboding at the prospect of a slow, hard paddling are that the pause between each stroke:

  • allows DW to recover her full strength and ensure the next is applied with total deliberation at the full measure of force to her exactly intended destination;
  • repeatedly produces the full gambit of pain sensations – whereas a more rapidly delivered spanking tends to postpone this until it’s complete, to some extent.

Hence the delivery of each stroke tends to be followed by perhaps a 20 to 30 second pause during which I am left to fully experience its painful aftermath.  Once the pain of each stroke has subsided a little and my composure somewhat regained, DW then expects me to deliver a formal response in a near normal voice:

“That’s ten…thank you Ma’am…may I please have another?”

Should this response be a little long in coming, I’ll become aware that DW has already replaced her hand on my lower back and relaid the flat of the paddle across my now flaming butt cheeks in preparation for the next stroke – a warning that any further delay will result in a repeat of the same stroke.

DW also tends to reward any profanities that escape during the aftermath of a paddle stroke with repeat strokes and a pause while she fetches and firmly installs the ball gag – whilst nevertheless still requiring that I attempt formal responses, despite its relentless rubberised invasion of my mouth.

So back to the negotiations.

“So how long should I keep you in panties then?”

“3 days?”

“No, that’s not long enough I think – try again.”

“Umm… 2 weeks?” I venture – in the hope that her daily choice from the drawer might be at the more comfortable end of the scale.

”Yes, that’s fine… 1 week would have sufficed, but two will be just fine.”

“   oh”.

October 31st, 2008 Posted by | Uncategorized | 23 comments

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  2. DW you are doing a fine job with your husband, keep up the good work.

    Comment by William | November 1, 2008

  3. Where do you get the beautiful panties??

    Comment by Tom | November 2, 2008

  4. Man oh man Ford your butt in those panties is blistered good and red that must have been painful, wonderful job DW.

    Comment by William | November 2, 2008

  5. Both pairs pictured in this post are Manties purchased online from http://www.manties.net/

    The ones barely covering my blistered and (yes) very sore butt are from a “day of the week” high-cut set – so white means that this spanking was delivered on a Sunday when DW determined that my “sit spot” warranted some special attention from the paddle. Some time spent on a hard wooden chair followed.

    DW saves those such as the lacy pair for more serious infractions – there also being a similar blue and pink pair in the punishment panty drawer for such occasions.

    Ford

    Comment by Ford | November 2, 2008

  6. <p>My wife will spank me but she feels unconfortable when it comes to discipline. I do my best to take all she gives but she will not discipline me even when I ask for it when I deserve it. </p>
    <p>Any ideas?</p>

    Comment by Bill | November 3, 2008

  7. DW here’s an idea, try having Ford wear a baby doll nightie during and after his spankings. This should add nicely to his very girlie panties, so cute the 3 roses on these very fem. panties.

    Comment by William | November 3, 2008

  8. Yes William, a baby doll nightie is a good thought for when Ford’s behaviour warrants it.
    Perhaps during the day I could have him in a lace bra that continually stimulates his nipples and (it seems) also keeps his cock nice and hard – I like to see that nice bulge in his trousers.
    Hmm, I also have a nice corset with suspenders and lace top stockings …
    DW

    Comment by DW | November 4, 2008

  9. Hi Bill,

    A couple of my previous posts may possibly be of some assistance – of course everyone’s relationship is different:

    http://discipliningford.com/blog/2007/04/29/why-spank-the-spouse-you-love-so-much/

    http://discipliningford.com/blog/2006/08/31/an-agreeable-relationship/

    In our case the communication that came from negotiating a written Disciplinary Agreement has certainly helped. I am indeed fortunate that DW was prepared to take responsibility for my discipline.

    All the best
    FORD

    Comment by Ford | November 4, 2008

  10. DW, you are the best.

    Comment by William | November 4, 2008

  11. <p>Corset with Suspenders and stockings, wonderful, go for it DW, the bad little boy needs a firm woman like you.</p>

    Comment by William | November 5, 2008

  12. DW—Ford has written frequently about your use of panty punishment as a part of your disciplinary regimen. I gather that you often use them to put him “on notice” that an infraction has not gone unnoticed, but will be dealt with at a later date. I also gather that you employ panties to “enhance” the disciplinary effect of a spanking or corner time. And, of course, as Ford notes in his “Underwear and Attitude” post, there is his fear of detection and humiliation should someone notice the telltale VPL of his high cut panties or if a lacy waistband peeks above his belt line—the fear itself is “painful”, and a reminder of what awaits him, whether he’s outed or not.

    But now you have raised the possibility of adding brassieres, corsets, suspenders and stockings to your disciplinary arsenal! Certainly a good idea—should we call this “lingerie punishment”? However I would humbly offer a gentle reminder that it is nearly impossible for a man to navigate a typical day and avoid detection of his bra straps and snaps and his garter tabs. Detection is almost certain! I’m sure you have considered this and will act as you see fit, but there isn’t any going back once the neighbors, friends and fellow employees see his bra. That “punishment” is pretty much forever.

    As I said, just a friendly reminder. Be well, both of you.

    Comment by misster | November 13, 2008

  13. do you buy all of your panties online?
    or does DW take you shopping for panties?
    my wife likes to do this, which can be just as embarassing as wearing panties and getting spanked, if not more so.
    we have also bought nightwear as well

    Comment by samsub | November 16, 2008

  14. DW, what do you think about giving Ford a good switching or a strapping, would love to see that, take care, William.

    Comment by William | November 16, 2008

  15. Hi misster,
    Your point is well made and appreciated. If and when I choose to extend Ford’s discipline to other items feminine underwear, he can be assured that it will be:
    – because he has absolutely deserved it; and
    – kept strictly a private matter between the two of us, perhaps during a dedicated disciplinary weekend away.

    Our Disciplinary Agreement is very clear on this point:
    “Ford and DW agree that the effectiveness of scheduled discipline should be enhanced as an integral part of this regime by the application of additional sanctions at DW’s sole discretion, both before and after the actual administration of the discipline itself. Like the Discipline, such additional sanctions are to be kept private between Ford and DW.”

    Be well also.
    DW

    Comment by DW | November 17, 2008

  16. William – interesting that you should mention these possibilities.
    Just the other night I mused to Ford while he was removing his belt about the impact it could make on his backside.
    I’m now also the proud owner of a set of canes in various thicknesses – imported after carefully studying the relevant quarantine laws.
    Hmm…
    DW

    Comment by DW | November 17, 2008

  17. Would love to see the marks a good caning leaves, thanks again for your responce DW.

    Comment by William | November 18, 2008

  18. Caning, I think.

    Comment by William | November 19, 2008

  19. DW, I’ve notice when the pic. of Fords blue panties comes up it’s like he’s sticking his bottom out, did you tell him to do that for the picture or is Ford just proud of his blue frilly panties ?

    Comment by William | November 22, 2008

  20. I seem to recall that I caught him with the camera just as he was trying to pull his jeans up after I’d made him change into them. I just love punishing him with those particular panties when he deserves it – they make him so “manageable”.
    DW

    Comment by DW | November 22, 2008

  21. Hi samsub – most of the panties that DW uses for my discipline have been sourced online. However, on those occasions when we do shop together, it’s not unusual for DW to take a detour via the women’s underwear section to see if any items take her fancy as additions to the punishment panty drawer.
    I’m sure she does this not least for its effect on my behaviour and attitude – knowing as I do that I’ll be the one to wear them at her discretion.
    FORD

    Comment by Ford | November 23, 2008

  22. Wonderful to see anther man who gets spanked in panties. Me too, for some 37 years now, and how I love it!

    Comment by Mark | December 1, 2008

  23. DW and Ford,

    Awesome relationship and great stories and blogs. I have always dreamed of being spanked in panties!!

    Ever just give Ford a long OTK hand spanking??

    Be well and thanks

    Comment by ron c | October 17, 2009

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