Disciplining Ford

Measures of Effectiveness

As near as I can tell, DW has three primary ways of determining whether a remedial spanking has adequately achieved its purpose:

1. It must be sufficiently painful during the course of its delivery.
Based on a combination of the sound of its delivery and my reaction, with practice, DW has learnt to judge whether each stroke has proven effective for the particular instrument in use. For the hairbrush and Spencer paddle, DW knows that a well-delivered stroke makes a resounding report that echoes loudly throughout the room and beyond – whereas a stroke that produces only a dull thud has added little of value to the punishment.

In my experience, certain assumed positions and locations seem more conducive to the delivery of effective punishment strokes. Perhaps all too obviously, the most painful lessons have occurred when I am bent over the farthest, and when DW has had confident “swinging room” to deliver more fulsome strokes. In terms of sheer pain ‘value’, I’d have to rate being straddled over the side of the spa as perhaps the most memorable – something about that particular arrangement seems to put DW into stride and my memory of the last 100 rapid, perfectly delivered strokes from the hairbrush that I received in that position is still very fresh. A closely ranked second would be over the back of a captain’s chair at a hired cottage that provided just the right combination of height and reach – yeeouch!!

DW is also not in the custom of nominating beforehand the number of strokes that I am to receive – preferring, I believe, to rely on the progression of my responses and the visible state of my backside to deem what is sufficient, and quite often, that a punishment should be paused or even split over multiple days in order to maintain the effectiveness of each stroke. After all, there is not much point in continuing on immediately if it has become obvious that a spanking has reached a point of ‘diminished return’. An hour’s break usually seems sufficient to ensure a renewed effectiveness – and when they occasionally occur, on-the-hour repeat spankings over the course of a day are something to be reckoned with!

For more rapidly delivered strokes, the interval between them is kept pretty constant, allowing just sufficient time for any involuntary exclamatory response on my part, and to announce the count. Nevertheless, I feel sure there are times when DW is deliberately raising the rate to test the limits of my endurance, and so that my response and counting become intermingled.

I expect that as our inventory of spanking implements progressively grows, the role will become clear for a more leisurely rate of delivery from items such as a severe cane or large paddle – where I suspect that the progression of pain sensations from each individual stroke is an event in itself. That red ball gag in the drawer may then find a use in keeping my noise level below that of the spanking strokes themselves.

2. Its effects must be visibly apparent for several days after the event – as a minimum.
When DW has decreed a punishment spanking, I can be sure that it will continue either continuously or in stages, until she is convinced that I will carry the visible signs of it for an appropriate period of time. As this is often difficult to judge on the same day that a spanking has occurred, DW has made a frequent practice of inspecting my backside over the days following a punishment spanking to ensure that she has ‘left her mark’ on me. As the general redness of a spanking fades, DW is content only if she finds more lasting signs such as tell-tale dark red lines and/or more generalised bruises. We’ve also been somewhat surprised by the ability of a hot shower to restore that healthy glow to my butt for a week or more after the event.

If, contrary to expectations, the markings are not sufficiently persistent, repeat performances can be expected until such time as they are.

After one particularly punishing weekend, the blisters on my butt cheeks took a full 3 weeks to resolve themselves. This in itself gave rise to the codeword between us of ‘weekend’ – which when used by DW, can be translated as an extremely severe warning to cease any particularly bad behaviour on my part.

3. The pain should also persist for some days as an ongoing reminder .
As this can also be difficult to judge at the time of the spanking, DW has adopted more of a prescription approach based on her experience that a certain number of strokes from a specific implement will produce the right outcome. Whilst the hairbrush appears to be the most severely painful of our implements during the course a spanking, DW has found that the more solid Spencer paddle is best for producing those long term painful reminders of a spanking. Once the more immediate stinging subsides, I then find it is replaced by a duller but continuous reminder that is there even when seated on the most apparently comfortable seating.

The delicacy with which I adopt a sitting position over the following days, particularly on a hard chair, can provide DW with a good indication of the lingering after effects. Alternatively, she also can adopt the more direct method of unexpectedly grabbing a piece of my butt, and observing my reaction. I expect that the penalty for her detection of a faked response on my part would not be worth the attempt.

April 16th, 2006 Posted by | Uncategorized | 9 comments


  1. I have enjoyed reading your blog, and will look forward to future installments. It is comforting to know other men and women live in a similar situation, although your spankings appear to be much more intense than my spankings.
    I will put a link on my blog, and please let me know of other blogs of a dwc type lifestlye.
    bottoms up

    Comment by dwcmike | May 1, 2006

  2. Hi Mike,
    Many thanks for your positive comments. Blogging is a fairly new world for me, but I’m also very much enjoying it in the knowledge that other couples share similar experiences and lifestyle.
    Thanks also for the link – yours was one of the first dwc blogs that I discovered and I hope to add more links to mine as I find other active blogs that relate to that lifestyle. Just at present it’s a challenge to keep my posts up to date with the DWC events in our life, so I hope that means there is material for quite a few more entries.
    best regards

    Comment by Ford | May 1, 2006

  3. Excellent blog. Your spankings are much more intense than those which I’ve ever administered. You certainly seem properly trained and submissive, though, so kudos to your wife.

    Nice use of mild petticoat discipline, too.

    Just out of curiosity, do your daughters know you’re under discipline? If so, are they supportive of their mother’s decision to control you?


    Comment by Laurie | May 3, 2006

  4. Hi Laurie, whilst the fact that I’m under DW’s discipline is not something that we share in the family, I suspect the enhanced closeness of the relationship between us would be apparent.
    Nevertheless, DW is not averse to giving my freshly spanked butt what looks in public like just a playful slap – knowing full well that I need to limit my reaction to one that doesn’t give the game away!

    Comment by Ford | May 8, 2006

  5. Hallo Ford,

    Congratulation! Your bottom is very well striped I’m envious of you.
    You are right practice makes perfect. I think the stinging blow of cane is most sore because the rattan is incomparable with the paddle. The “six of the best” is a very sore punishment, in Singapore the peak is 24 but there are an extraordinary case usual “portion” is 10-15 only. Between the riding crop and the cane are the pain of blow unessential.

    Comment by croma | August 12, 2006

  6. I also find that the rattan cane is more effective, although I do have to be lying face down on the bed to handle the number of strokes my wife likes giving… 60 or more! I am sure that bent at the waist i couldn’t cope with more than 20 or 30.
    being spanked and caned though really does relieve stress and correct bad habits

    Comment by Evan | October 19, 2006

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  9. I’m very much enjoying your blog, Ford (although a late comer). My wife and I live in a domestic disciplinary relationship as well, however the punishments I receive today are not as severe as yours…She has mellowed and spanks gentler over the past few years (I’m not quite sure if I miss the more severe spankings or not)!


    Comment by jamieanne | June 27, 2007

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